There are times as I am aimlessly scrollin through social media, and I see all these memes and reels that are supposed to be funny motherhood related topics. The “mommy needs wine” or “I love these little a*hles”. Or even the ones where the mom is running out the door the minute the dad gets home. To me, these all make motherhood look bad. While yes, days are hard and long, why sit there and make it seem like motherhood is bad?
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By no means am I perfect and neither are my children. Over the years as a mother I have grown and been challenged by God to do better and be better. I have gone through days where I thought I could not take another second of noise. I have gone through days where I just want to not be touched. I’m not going to sit here and act like I never shared or laughed at the memes or reels I mentioned before, because I have. I used to be in that mindset.
I also do not judge anyone who continues to laugh at that or share them. But here’s what I have come here to say, and it’s been on my mind for a while, stop before you send it. Sit with yourself for a moment and think about the message you are sending to new moms or women who aren’t mothers yet. Is motherhood really that bad? Do you really want to run away from your children? Do you really want to drink all that wine or alcohol just to drown out your day of being a mom?
I do not. I do not want to send that message anymore that motherhood is bad. Are some days hard? YES! We are humans, we all have bad, rough, hard, miserable, long, emotional days. AND SO DO OUR CHILDREN. I believe as adults we forget that children, no matter how old, are still humans and they still experience emotions like the rest of us do.
**I tried to hide the fact Declan was in his underwear
Instead of acting like they couldn’t possibly imagine what it’s like to have a hard day, how about we sit with them one on one and ask them why their day WAS so hard. What is making them sad? While it might seem small to us, it is big to them. We need to show our children we are here for them now, we are listening to them now, we believe in them now; before they’re teenagers and they don’t come to us and we wonder why they hide away all day.
It isn’t easy, but it is worth it.
Baking cookies is HARD with children when you have a certain way of doing things in the kitchen. We have to learn to surrender that control we want to constantly have over every little aspect of making homemade cookies. We need to learn to slow down and embrace the mess as our kids bond with us over the process. For me, I premeasure everything out in bowls and then call a kid over to do their part in the baking process. That way it doesn’t overcrowd the kitchen, everyone has a part in the process without fighting, and they get one on one time with me. Motherhood isn’t bad and we don’t have to stop doing the things we love. I love to bake, but now I just do it a little differently.
Motherhood is not bad. Being a mother, to me, is God’s greatest blessing. The days can be hard, but we need to know they aren’t going to last forever. We need to stand here and support other moms. Mother’s need to be there for each other when the days are hard, so we don’t see motherhood as bad.
We need to build up our villages again of mothers supporting mothers.
We need to see motherhood as the greatest blessing of all.
If you need some encouragement, send me an e-mail. If you don’t feel comfortable doing that, please reach out to someone close to you. I also highly recommend this book: M is for Mama. There is so much encouragement throughout this book.
I see you Mama. Keep doing your best and trusting in the Lord. You are doing the most important job on this Earth, raising up your children.
Here is a post about Faith if you need some encouragement.