Check on the Strong Ones
We often admire the strong ones—the dependable friends, the caregivers, the ones who always have the right words, who carry the weight of the world without showing a crack. They are the ones who seem to have it all together, who never ask for help, who are always there when you need them.
But who checks on them?
Strength is a beautiful thing, but it can also be isolating. When you are the one people lean on, it’s easy to forget what it feels like to lean on someone else. The strong ones are often so used to holding it all together that they don’t know how to ask for support. They’ve built an identity around resilience, and sometimes, the thought of breaking—even just a little—feels like failure.
But the truth is, even the strong need to be seen. They need to be asked, “How are you? No, really—how are you?” They need spaces where they don’t have to be the strong one, where they can admit they’re tired, overwhelmed, or just in need of a moment to breathe.
So, check on your strong friends.
The ones who always say they’re fine.
The ones who never cancel plans but might need a break.
The ones who give so much that they sometimes forget to take for themselves.
Send them a message. Ask them how they’re really doing. Remind them that they don’t always have to be the strong one—that they, too, are allowed to be vulnerable. That you’re there for them, not just when they’re strong, but especially when they’re not.
Because strength isn’t about never needing help. It’s about knowing you don’t have to carry everything alone.
And sometimes, the strongest thing a person can do is let someone in.
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